🎵 An exhaustive list of love songs that reflect relationship reality

It feels like most love songs are written by and for 20-year olds who have never experienced anything approaching a long-term commitment to anyone. I don’t mean that in a negative way, it’s just the way it is. But a person’s views of life and love and relationships change a lot when they’ve been in a committed relationship for more than a few years.

So I’ve been thinking about love songs that bring a bit of reality to the whole thing. I’m not talking about break-up songs. I’m talking about songs that reflect sticking with someone through good and bad, and not always enjoying it, but realizing that the hard work is absolutely 100% worth it. So far I’ve found… <checks clipboard>… two songs like that.

The first is Mutemath’s Happy to Oblige:

We may ride upon a sea of highs and lows But by your side, I’m happy to oblige

The other is Jars of Clay’s Love in Hard Times:

It’s when I think to reach across those battle lines Still love in the hard times

I really connect with these songs. They’re beautiful and real and a reflection of a relationship that has “seen some stuff.” I feel like there has to be more though. What are some other songs like this that come to mind for you?

Rian van der Merwe Product manager • Designer • Speaker